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Judgement: Part II: Who says....

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Click here for Audio Don’t judge people for the choices they make when you don’t know the options they had to choose from or the circumstances they were surrounded by. I can only speak for me, but unless I was intimately involved in a decision process it is not my place to judge anyone for the decisions they make. I may not agree, but there again, if I was not privy to the circumstances it is not mine or anyone else’s place to pass judgement.  I was recently judged by someone I thought cared about me as I did them. Their judgement of me was very hurtful. I thought they knew me better than that or that I knew them better than that. I have since forgiven their indiscretions, but I keep my distance as they will not have the opportunity to ever burn me again.  You see I did something they (we'll call them 'Tree') did not agree with. I took some time to reset and provide myself some self-care. Things had become very overwhelming for me and I just needed to g

Magazines: How do you read them?

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Click here for Audio I read magazines backwards, not sure why but as long as I can remember when I dig into a magazine I start at the back and thumb forward. I will do an initial flip through from the front, but if I am going to spend some time with it I start at the back. Thinking about it, I believe the articles I want to read are usually towards the back of the magazine. I believe that is by design. I mean look at all the advertisements between the front cover and the articles that are worth reading. A bazillion is what I see. Okay maybe that is an exaggeration, but you get my point. Advertisements are what keep the magazine afloat. Depending on the magazine and it’s popularity, I would imagine it can cost a pretty penny to advertise in a magazine. I remember as a kid, I loved to look at magazine advertisements and dream about all the things I would like to have or see. Once I had become an adult I didn’t have time to look at magazine ads and stopped caring to. Ev

Smile: Good for you and Others

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Click here for Audio Crooked teeth smile, not... There is nothing more basic than a 😃 that can make your day. Smiling was foreign to me until after I had braces in the early 2000’s. I had incredibly crooked teeth when I was a kid. The issue was my teeth were too big for my jaw. I got my mothers small jaw and fathers big teeth. They had to pull two teeth to straighten my teeth. Thank goodness my wisdom teeth were removed several years earlier. It was 2001 when my braces were removed and I received a dose of confidence. I really liked how my teeth looked after the braces came off and loved showing them off. Not long after having my braces removed we took family a family picture at Sears photo studio. The pictures came out very nice and I remember when I gave my mother a picture she said, “there is something different about you in this picture.” I said, “I’m smiling.” I was nearly forty years old and for the first time I was smiling with my whole face and it felt so goo

Bucket List: Thrive List

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Click here for Audio If you have read “ C is for Conquer ” you know that I came to realize I had survived, but I still needed to thrive. Yea, it took battling cancer to help me realize that it is okay to thrive. Not just okay it is necessary to truly come to peace. All my life I was so okay with just surviving. Heck surviving was a big deal when you had nothing. It provided a sense of accomplishment now and then. We were proud when we survived. A beating of the chest, yea we did it, kind of pride. Which in turn lead us to a false sense of existence. Oh and I believe this is where waiting for the other shoe to drop came from. Simply because ultimately something would happen and the next thing we knew, we were back at trying to survive. I was in such survival mode that I did not know how to be happy or what made me happy.”    There was a day that Ric and I were trying to decide on something fun to do. Ric suggested many things, and nothing resonated with me. I shot down eve