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Love Part VIII: Self CARE: Ideas, Opinions & Boundaries Oh My....

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Click here for Audio The C in P.E.A.C.E. stands for Caring. Caring in a relationship with another is about caring enough to consider someone’s opinions and ideas as well as respecting their boundaries. How do we turn that inward? We need to understand that each one of us has an opinion and/or idea about some things. Not necessarily everything, but quite often things cross our path that affect us in some way that would provoke an opinion or idea. When that happens feelings, past experiences and reactions come into play. Somethings may elicit a stronger reaction based on our past experiences or what we can tolerate. Other things may be blasé for us and therefore we don’t form an opinion or idea. Either way, having an opinion and/or an idea is a gift. It means we are alive, feeling and thinking. Some of us will share depending on the circumstances, others may choose to keep their thoughts to themselves. No matter what our opinions and ideas are valid and ours, whether or not

Love VII: Self Love: Acceptance: Vulnerability: Expanding Your World

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Click here for Audio This post was written by Ms. MaKayla Kellor. She is a brilliant young woman that is Expanding her world in just one more way. I appreciate her ability to put herself out there. She knew there was no harm in asking and she did. She did not fear rejection. She knew the worst I could do was say no, so she took the chance. I did not know MaKayla, but since she asked, I wanted to see what she could do. I asked her to read through my blogs so she could get a feel for what Bookin It With Bobbi is all about and send me something. Well here it is, and I have to say I am impressed. I hope you share my appreciation for MaKayla's courage and perseverance. She speaks some serious truth here.  Be Your Authentic Self! Vulnerability is an act many of us are afraid of. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you are allowing yourself to be fully known. Society has taught us that being fully known is not appropriate, though; you should hide the emotional parts of

Love Part VI: Self Empathy

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  Click here for Audio Empathy is a necessary element in a relationship. It is a matter of trying to understand and/or respect the feelings of another. We can empathize with ourselves by checking in with ourselves every now and then. Throughout the day, ask yourself how you are feeling. If the feeling is good and happy, then go with it and allow yourself to savor the moment. Sometimes I like to back track to see what brought me to that happy place. Doing so helps me create a thought process that I can go to when I need to change how I am feeling to a better place. When I check in with myself and the feeling is wonky or not so good, I will do some positive self talk and work on feeling better. Maybe pull in that happy place though process or just smile for a minute. I also always try to remember that everything happens for a reason. This gives me some understanding and helps me look at things optimistically. Keeping in mind the glass is always refillable. We need to keep in mi

Love Part V: Self Love

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Click here for Audio This and the next several blogs of my Love Series will focus on by far one of the most important loves available to all of us. It is the love of oneself. Yes, having love for ourselves is the beginning of a truly lovable story. The capacity in which we love ourselves matches that of the love we share with others. The love for ourselves is what we know and we can only truly share what we know. What I am getting at is, the love we have for ourselves is the amount of love we have for others, because that is what we know. This is precisely why we need to fall in love with ourselves. Live and laugh each day, forgive ourselves , learn from our mistakes, Go With The Flow , experience, have faith and grow. Now while there is a fine line between Ego and Egotistical or Egoism , you can love yourself without crossing that fine line, by simply by exercising P.E.A.C.E. (Patience, Empathy, Acceptance, Caring, Equality) with ourselves. I educate all over Nort

Love IV: Our Story

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Click here for Audio  As I remember, the latter part of 1990 I went to work for a company that provided electrical repair and services to residential and commercial customers. I was hired as a paralegal to address any non payment of services rendered. Any accounts ninety days or more outstanding landed in my department for processing into small claims court. On my first day I was shown around and introduced to the other departments: Customer service, collections and accounting to name a few. As we cruised through each department, I was introduced to the employees that happened to be at their desks or in the area. Ric was in the accounting department and was at his desk. I remember thinking he was nice looking, but almost at the same time saw a very formal family picture he had on this desk. Him, wife, toddler son and baby girl. So, thinking he was nice looking is where it stopped for me. Some time went by as I was getting situated in my new job and shortly after I was h