Love Part V: Self Love
This and the next several blogs of my Love Series will focus
on by far one of the most important loves available to all of us. It is the
love of oneself. Yes, having love for ourselves is the beginning of a truly
lovable story.
The capacity in which we love ourselves matches that of the love we share with others.
The love for ourselves is what we know and we can
only truly share what we know. What I am getting at is, the love we have for
ourselves is the amount of love we have for others, because that is what we know.
This is precisely why we need to fall in love with ourselves. Live and laugh
each day, forgive ourselves, learn from our mistakes, Go With The Flow,
experience, have faith and grow.
Now while there is a fine line between Ego and Egotistical or Egoism, you can love yourself without crossing that fine line, by simply by
exercising P.E.A.C.E. (Patience, Empathy, Acceptance, Caring, Equality) with ourselves.
I educate all over North America about the importance of healthy relationships, with a specific focus on teens and young adults. Although, I do invite
adults and parents to learn the P.E.A.C.E. concept as well. If for no other reason
use it as a tool to connect themselves with their child or the teen in their
life and/or become a trusted adult.

I am so guilty of constantly being in motion and trying to
get things done as soon as possible, so I can move onto the next thing. I used
to think, there is so much to be done and so little time to do it in. I used to
race around gotta do this, gotta do that, now, right now. That is partially because
I thought I had to do it all myself. The other thing is I was always trying to
be perfect or make things perfect. That is in part, why I would try to do it myself.
You know the old adage, if you want it
done right you need to do it yourself. These two things alone are most definitely
a recipe for disaster and disappointment. I do know this to be true.
Now I know I cannot do anything about those misconceptions
and the fact that I once bought into them, but I can choose to change my
thought process. Such as:
- Not everything needs to be done right now right now.
- It is okay to take time to rest and relax.
- I will get there when I get there – safety takes priority.
- Someone else’s priority does not have to be mine.
- Ask for or let others help.
- I get to decide what to do and when.
- I can make the time to do whatever it is I want to do.
- Perfect should never be anything more than an expression of greatness or approval.
- Instead of ‘if you want it done right do it yourself’ I choose to change that statement to, ‘if you want it done a certain way, you need to do it yourself.’
- Above all I get to decide what is best for me and that does not make me selfish, it makes me happy, gives me inner peace and my true sense of power and control.

Next blog we will look at empathizing with ourselves. If we
do it for others, why not empathize with ourselves? Have wonderful week and remember
to Keep it Simple (KiS).
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