Ego: Fine Line Part I
Ego is something, as of late, that I recently realized I have misunderstood or taken out
of context. What I have been referring to more so, is egotistical. Ego, by
definition, is not a bad thing at all. As a matter of fact, I promote it daily.
Although, there is a fine line between Ego and Egotistical. According to a
couple of different sources the definition is:
Oxford dictionary:
Ego is a person's sense of
self-esteem or self-importance.
Cambridge dictionary: Ego is your idea or opinion of yourself,
especially your feeling of your own importance and ability.
Collins
dictionary: Ego is a sense of ones own worth.
Freud said the
conscious (as opposed to the unconscious) mind, or the awareness of one's own
identity and existence.
So how can Ego be a bad thing? Counselors, Psychologists,
Psychiatrist, Social Workers and advocates work with people daily to understand and build their self-worth. They help them realize they are good and deserve to be
respected and treated with kindness and honesty.
Digging deeper and looking at the definition of Egotistical I realized, there is a fine line between Ego
and Egotistical.
Egotistical
is when you don't have the
competence and experience to back up your confidence.
Oxford
Dictionary: Egotistical is to be excessively
conceited or absorbed in oneself; self-centered.
Cambridge
dictionary: Egotistical is the tendency to think only about yourself and consider yourself better and more important than other people.
Collins
dictionary: Egotistical is someone who behaves
selfishly and thinks they are more important than other people.
Okay so now that I have re-educated myself, Ego is what makes us, US. So what happens to push someone towards Egoism, Egotistic or become Egotistical? Not sure about you, but that seems to be a very complex dynamic that can come from so many directions.
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Keeping it
simple, given the definitions of Ego vs. Egotistical, self esteem or the lack of
can play a HUGE part in crossing that fine line. Self esteem is something else
that comes at us from several directions as well.
A child raised in a negative and
non-supportive environment will no doubt struggle in the self esteem area. Some
will fade into the background others will bust through to rebel the nay sayers.
Some start out in the background, but later bust out. I believe that is the
road I traveled at one time. It’s like we swing from one side all the way to
the other extreme. It was such a relief to eventually land in the middle, but
it took kind, patient and honest people to help me get here. I also had to be ready
to hear their suggestions and take them to heart. Yet, until you get here you haven’t
a clue what a great place it is. There is balance and it is a relief to realize
the only control you have and are responsible for is over yourself.
Coming to that
conclusion took a huge weight off my shoulders. I no longer had to accept
responsibility for things going sideways when I didn’t cause the problem. It
was not always my fault when things didn’t go right. I am not to blame for all
the worlds problems or the problems of those around me. I do not have to fix
the problems of others, nor can I. I can help if allowed, but it is not my
place to insist they let me help.
So in the interest
of Keeping it Simple (KiS), I am going to declare this as part 1 of I am not
sure how many, given the complexity of ego vs egotistical and self-esteem. If
you have any particular area of this you would like me to tackle first by all
means leave a comment and I’ll be in touch. Until then, have a wonderful week
and remember to Keep it Simple (KiS).
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