Healthy Relationships



Okay this is probably going to be a bit heavier than most, but we will get back to the basics by the end of the blog. Now let’s get to it…..

Did you know that February is National Teen
Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month? Yep, since 2010 the issue of teen dating violence has a whole month dedicated to it. For a few years it was just a week, but enough of us pushed it and we now have at least four times as many days.

Now, why is it that teen dating violence has risen to a place where a whole month is necessary for its recognition? Unfortunately, it has been brushed off, minimized and just not considered, mostly because of the victim and perpetrators ages. Another reason is our children are a product of their environment. Therefore, their behavior is created by what they have lived. If they have lived in an environment filled with abuse on one level or another that is the conditioning they received and therefore it became their normal.

So what we have here is a societal disease at an epidemic level. You might say this lady is really blowing this out of proportion or why is this all of a sudden an issue. If you knew the stats and understood the complexities of dating and domestic violence you wouldn’t say that. I am not going to school you here, because we have a place for you to go to www.kaitysway.org to educate yourself when you are ready. Kaity’s Way is the organization that my husband, Ric and I founded in 2008. Our mission is to advocate for healthy teen relationships by providing the education, skills and tools to youth and their allies. We can help you educate yourself about this issue so you can be a trusted adult for youth in this area. Just let us know of your interest and we are happy to work with you.

This is where we get back to basics. One of the greatest things about Kaity’s Way is we educate about the importance of healthy relationships through our P.E.A.C.E. Rights & Responsibilities model. It is very basic and Ric and I do our absolute best to exercise it every day. Within ourselves; yes the first healthy relationship you really need to have is with yourself, and because of this we exercise it with others. This would be why we don’t argue and never fight. We settle our disagreements with respect and decency for each other, because we know we have a choice when it comes to our behavior. Not only that, we know we are solely responsible for our choices and that includes the behavior behind it.
Peace Rose

Patience, Empathy, Acceptance, Caring, Equality is what P.E.A.C.E. stands for. Practicing these elements along with respect, love and honesty you will have healthy, happy, loving relationships. Yes, there are going to be outside stressors that will come into play from time to time. This is when you need to ask yourself what true power and control do I have over that situation. The answer always is; the only true power and control any of us have is over ourselves. How we react or not, is all that is within our control. This is exactly why we need to exercise and immerse ourselves in P.E.A.C.E. and Kaity’s Way can help you with this.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to sell you something here. If you go to our website you are not going to be bombarded with ads or anything like that. Going to our website gives you access to important, possibly lifesaving information. Whether you go to our website or not it up to you, but know that we are here to help better the community in the best way we know how. Until next time, take care!
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