A Parent is Born: A Priveledge & Honor

There are two ways a parent is born. The first, by giving
birth to a beautiful blessing. The second is by coming into the life of a beautiful blessing and the child calling you mom or dad just because they want to. Ric and I fell into both categories when we began our relationship in 1992. We both came to the relationship with children from a previous marriage and eventually had one child together. Thus, creating a blended family unit, which is very common in this day and age. We had come together like the Sonoran and Mohave Deserts, cradling a beautiful blend of Joshua Trees and Saguaro Cacti in our arms. Yvonne, RJ, Daniel, Kaity, and Virginia were our beautiful blessings.
As our relationship developed we agreed that the children and their needs took priority over all else. Therefore, as much as we were committed to each other we extended that commitment without hesitation to always keeping in mind what was best for the children. We gave our children encouragement, guidance, set boundaries, kept lines of communication open, loved them unconditionally and took the risks as parents we felt needed to be addressed, i.e. the birds and the bees, peer pressure, relationships and things that were going on in their lives. These were the building blocks to parenting happy children and having a happy family. We cherish our relationships with our children and are very honored to be their parents.

Whether you give birth, father a child or come into their lives as an adoptive or step-parent, the commitment is the same no matter how you look at it. Children look to the adults in their lives for sincere, unconditional guidance and love. For instance, the relationship between Kaity and I, while Kaity did not grow in my womb, she most definitely grew in my heart as did her brother Daniel and I fell in love with both of them as much as I love Yvonne, RJ and Virginia. Kaity called me mom because she chose to and I referred to Kaity as my daughter. Even though there were times that we did not agree, overall we had a mutual love and respect for each other. It was an unconditional bond neither to be judged nor questioned as it should be between any parent and child.
With that being said, you can never love a child too much. Being there for them when they need to talk or guidance through life is the one of the most sincere ways you can show your child the unconditional love you have for them. Children just want you to be there with them and for them. They thrive on your knowledge and look to you for understanding and patience. Their unconditional love for you is so precious and is truly a beautiful wonder of the universe.
With that I am going to wish you a wonderful week and Keep it Simple (KiS). Take Care!!!

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