No: Can you handle it?
No,
a word that is known in many languages for the same meaning as in the English language.
It is what we say in response to something we do not want to do. To say No is
to decline an offer or not participate in something or with someone. As basic
and simple as the word No is, some are still confused and taken back by it.
Some are taught not to take No for an answer or not accept the answer No from
anyone. As if they have that kind of control over other people.
People
have the right to say No at any given time. We should never have to do anything
we don’t want to do, but when some people hear No, they don’t acknowledge it or
think you just need some convincing. Well guess what, when I say No, I mean No.
I don’t need convincing I have my reasons why not and I do not owe anyone an
explanation. No means No and while I do have the right to change my mind, I do
not need anyone trying to convince me otherwise.
Personally,
I do not appreciate it when I tell someone
No and they persist. Seriously, I am
a grown adult and have my own mind. I do not need anyone trying to tell me what
I want or need. I may not even know for sure what I need and want, but I will
figure it out myself. If I want help I will ask, otherwise if I say No, No is
the answer.
A
couple of scenarios come to mind with regards to No. Such as, say for instance
someone wants to get to know you better. Whether they want to be friends or on
a more intimate level, you get to decide if you are interested. If you are not
interested and let them know that, they need to move on, no questions asked.
Overall, they need to let you be. You don’t owe them an explanation or anything
like that. Anyone that thinks you do owe them an explanation, you do not want
to be involved with ever. They reek of narcissism and egoism.
You
see the person that is not willing to accept a No answer is very insecure and
egotistical. They take a No answer very personal, when in most cases it is not
personal. The person saying No, could very well not be in a position to allow
another person into their life. Maybe their current obligations are enough for
them right now and entertaining another person would not work for them. In
either case taking a No answer personal is not necessary.
How
about sales people or better yet, the pushiest sales people that I have
experienced are those that sell cars. They are the worst at taking No for an
answer. That is why I have taken to looking for my vehicles online when I am in
the market. I find what I want, contact the seller to find out if it is still
available. If so, I go to where it is, test drive it, kick the tires and decide
if I want it. If I do not want it, I tell them No thanks and move on. Again, I do
not owe them an explanation. Now, if the vehicle is not available, I go back to
the drawing board and start my research over again. What I will not do is go to
the car lot and look around. The main reason being is I do not want anyone
telling me what I want. I know what I want and need. For someone to presume
they know what I want and need, especially if they do not know me, is ridiculous
and it is all in the name of making that commission. With me, you do not get to
make that commission and step all over my right to say No.
Imagine
a world where people don’t take things personal or make assumptions. What a
glorious place it would be!!!! Until next time, Keep it Simple (KiS) and Take Care!
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