Bookin' It With Bobbi

Have you ever reached a point in your life when you were wondering where to go from here? You’re faced with a situation or decision and given the circumstances you just are not sure what to do or which direction to go in. Sometimes a tragedy with bring you to this point. Been there done that…. Other times it has more to do with so many options it is hard to choose. This I find very overwhelming. Then there are those times that it seems as though things are just not panning out as you had wanted. Could this be a lack of patience? Some people, myself included, faced with a tragedy will take it in hand and make something of it, just as we did with Kaity’s Way  after the loss of our 17 year old daughter. Honestly, I just wanted to heal and I found helping others with the lessons we learned was the best way to do that. That meant I had to expose our ignorance, set shame and embarrassment aside to serve our community. Often times, we don’t know what we don’t know until faced with ...

Click here for Audio No , probably one of the most universal words that has the same meaning in most languages. Yet, for some it is a very uncomfortable word to say. Then there are those that don't accept no as an answer very well. This was addressed in a former blog I put out in October, " No: Can you handle it ." So, we will address those that don't like to say No.  Being comfortable with declining or saying No is an important step in maturing and taking care of ourselves. The inability to decline or say No, could be devastating for a child. I am thinking this societal conditioning is one of the reasons we have children being violated and abused.  We are all born with the ability to sense energy or vibes. Children and animals are seriously tuned into this, but societal conditioning has made those children doubt themselves as they get older. That is such a shame and robs us of one of our natural defenses. Children and animals can easily pick up on nega...

Click her for Audio When we received the diagnosis that I had breast cancer we were overwhelmed, flabbergasted and down right beside ourselves. To receive such a diagnosis is devastating and it sends you into a world of many unknowns. To say we were scared is an understatement. Not only were we terrified were very vulnerable and clueless. We were numb and for a bit sat in silence. My thoughts were split. On the one hand I was wondering What the F&#k!!!!!!! I wanted to scream, cuss or light something up. The other part of me felt utterly defeated. What more could I deal with? They say God doesn’t give you anymore than you can handle. Well, at that point, I felt like God had gotten me mixed up with someone else, because I was done. I had been through enough over the last couple of years and now this. For crying out loud enough was enough. We were so blown out of the water that we just went with what we were told in the beginning. I don’t recall being offered an advocate ...

Click here for Audio Hiking is such a privilege and so much can be gained from it. I am so grateful for where I live in Arizona, especially with regards to hiking. Actually, just about anywhere you live in the valley of the sun you will have trails to hike within minutes. I see it as a privilege because I am physically able to hike. There was a period of time when I was not and that was very hard to deal with. So, I focused on healing and here I am nearly ten years later hiking as often as I can. In past years I kind of took hiking for granted. It had been something we did when we wanted to get out and couldn’t think of anything else to do. Never really seeing it for all it really was. I have come to realize that hiking is multidimensional. The act of hiking, in itself, is exercise whether it is climbing or not. Yet, there is so much more to it if you are totally present and in the moment. Being present is so important if you want to discover the other levels hiking h...

Click here for Audio Yes you do, I do, everyone does! It is a matter of figuring it out.  Sooooo, what is YOUR Super Power? My vision boards utilizing my Super Power of Creativity No, I have not lost my mind and I am not off my rocker. Read on if you dare to learn about something new! Maybe that something new will be about you….     In my humble opinion there are three elements to declaring a Power to be a Super Power.  The first element of a Super Power is something you’re extraordinarily good at? What do you do exceptionally well? A lot of times it is something that comes natural to you. Creativity comes very natural to me, and I consider it to be one of my Super Powers. Another couple of Super Powers I possess and have learned over the years are being honest and forgiving. You may be saying those can’t be Super Powers, they are just abilities. Excuse me, but aren’t Super Powers abilities that we are extremely good at? All are great qualit...

Click here for Audio What is Equality? The literal definition is,  the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities. Let’s focus on ‘the state of being.’ I see ‘the state of being’ “anything” is something we do naturally. It is existing because we do. Now adding equal to that is ‘the state of being equal.’ Meaning to see ourselves as equal or treating ourselves as an equal. It starts with us, so it is a must that we see ourselves as equal to others. How we see or treat ourselves is our true power and control. Treating ourselves well makes it difficult for another to mistreat us. Simply because when we treat ourselves well, we give ourselves an insight as to how we need or want to be loved and treated. When you understand truly loving yourself always, you will not tolerate anyone treating you indifferent or badly. You will be comfortable to some degree with calling someone out if they are being inappropriate. You know it needs to be done and will cont...

Click here for Audio The C in P.E.A.C.E. stands for Caring. Caring in a relationship with another is about caring enough to consider someone’s opinions and ideas as well as respecting their boundaries. How do we turn that inward? We need to understand that each one of us has an opinion and/or idea about some things. Not necessarily everything, but quite often things cross our path that affect us in some way that would provoke an opinion or idea. When that happens feelings, past experiences and reactions come into play. Somethings may elicit a stronger reaction based on our past experiences or what we can tolerate. Other things may be blasé for us and therefore we don’t form an opinion or idea. Either way, having an opinion and/or an idea is a gift. It means we are alive, feeling and thinking. Some of us will share depending on the circumstances, others may choose to keep their thoughts to themselves. No matter what our opinions and ideas are valid and ours, whether or not...

Click here for Audio This post was written by Ms. MaKayla Kellor. She is a brilliant young woman that is Expanding her world in just one more way. I appreciate her ability to put herself out there. She knew there was no harm in asking and she did. She did not fear rejection. She knew the worst I could do was say no, so she took the chance. I did not know MaKayla, but since she asked, I wanted to see what she could do. I asked her to read through my blogs so she could get a feel for what Bookin It With Bobbi is all about and send me something. Well here it is, and I have to say I am impressed. I hope you share my appreciation for MaKayla's courage and perseverance. She speaks some serious truth here.  Be Your Authentic Self! Vulnerability is an act many of us are afraid of. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you are allowing yourself to be fully known. Society has taught us that being fully known is not appropriate, though; you should hide the emotional parts of ...

  Click here for Audio Empathy is a necessary element in a relationship. It is a matter of trying to understand and/or respect the feelings of another. We can empathize with ourselves by checking in with ourselves every now and then. Throughout the day, ask yourself how you are feeling. If the feeling is good and happy, then go with it and allow yourself to savor the moment. Sometimes I like to back track to see what brought me to that happy place. Doing so helps me create a thought process that I can go to when I need to change how I am feeling to a better place. When I check in with myself and the feeling is wonky or not so good, I will do some positive self talk and work on feeling better. Maybe pull in that happy place though process or just smile for a minute. I also always try to remember that everything happens for a reason. This gives me some understanding and helps me look at things optimistically. Keeping in mind the glass is always refillable. We need to keep i...

Click here for Audio This and the next several blogs of my Love Series will focus on by far one of the most important loves available to all of us. It is the love of oneself. Yes, having love for ourselves is the beginning of a truly lovable story. The capacity in which we love ourselves matches that of the love we share with others. The love for ourselves is what we know and we can only truly share what we know. What I am getting at is, the love we have for ourselves is the amount of love we have for others, because that is what we know. This is precisely why we need to fall in love with ourselves. Live and laugh each day, forgive ourselves , learn from our mistakes, Go With The Flow , experience, have faith and grow. Now while there is a fine line between Ego and Egotistical or Egoism , you can love yourself without crossing that fine line, by simply by exercising P.E.A.C.E. (Patience, Empathy, Acceptance, Caring, Equality) with ourselves. I educate all over Nort...

Click here for Audio  As I remember, the latter part of 1990 I went to work for a company that provided electrical repair and services to residential and commercial customers. I was hired as a paralegal to address any non payment of services rendered. Any accounts ninety days or more outstanding landed in my department for processing into small claims court. On my first day I was shown around and introduced to the other departments: Customer service, collections and accounting to name a few. As we cruised through each department, I was introduced to the employees that happened to be at their desks or in the area. Ric was in the accounting department and was at his desk. I remember thinking he was nice looking, but almost at the same time saw a very formal family picture he had on this desk. Him, wife, toddler son and baby girl. So, thinking he was nice looking is where it stopped for me. Some time went by as I was getting situated in my new job and shortly after I w...